Over 40 & Low Libido? How To Increase Intimacy, From An OB/GYN

If the dryness is caused by a decrease in estrogen levels during menopause, then a vaginal moisturizer or lubricant can help. Personal moisturizers that encourage pH balance are also helpful for daily non-sexual use. 

Some folks do well with more natural options, like coconut oil, but just because it grew on a tree, doesn’t mean it’s right for you. Word to the wise: always spot-test for allergies and sensitivities! 

In my work as an OB/GYN, I’ve found silicone-based lubes are generally the best for sex—they stay slick a long time, and they neither pull fluid out or put fluid into tissue. This is important to decrease friction and maintain pleasure. Cannabis-based lubes and suppositories can also increase pleasure by relaxing the pelvic muscles, as well as increasing blood flow and feel-good factors provided by the endocannabinoid system.  

(Still not sure what lube to buy? Find a list of mbg’s favorite natural options here, or ask your OB/GYN for a recommendation.)