If Your Sexual Attraction Shifts All The Time, You Might Be Abrosexual

If your partner shares that they are abrosexual, the first thing you’ll want to do is learn about the term if you aren’t familiar with it. Consider asking them what being abrosexual means to them, Stray Conger says. Ask them about the circumstances that allowed them to realize their abrosexuality initially, their patterns, and how they would like you to check in with them about their fluctuating desires. 

By doing so, you’ll not only be able to better understand and support your partner, but you’ll also be able to express your own needs and boundaries about the relationship. From there, you can both support each other and do the work it takes to be in a relationship together.

Another great way to approach things is to focus on being in the moment, Queen says. “Build as healthy a relationship with the person as possible so that you can be in the moment with them, not constantly looking ahead for signs of fluctuation in their feelings for you. Fluctuations might happen, for many reasons, in any relationship, and being too on the alert for them can be counter productive.”