19 Best Books About Sex That Are Worth the Read | Goop

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For a book about sex to be worth the read, it has to be 1) from someone you trust and 2) not too clinical or…dry. Over the years—and through research for our own book, The Sex Issue—we’ve found guides from compelling experts that are both immensely useful and easy to spend time reading.

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  • <em>The Wild Woman’s Way</em> by Michaela Boehm

    The Wild Woman’s Way by Michaela Boehm

    Sex, intimacy, and Tantra expert Michaela Boehm writes about the importance of consciously engaging with our bodies—the mind-body connection that, she says, is the secret to finding deeper, greater pleasure. Embodiment, she says, is listening to our body’s signals, and she urges us to move our bodies in unstructured ways through practical exercises that bring us back into our feelings and our senses.

  • <em>Mating in Captivity</em> by Esther Perel

    Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

    What does it take to keep the flame burning—even after years of marriage? Couples and sexuality therapist Esther Perel weighs in with her honest (and refreshingly provocative) insight on the possibility of a better sex life in this exceptionally entertaining examination of love and lust.

  • <em>Come as You Are</em> by Emily Nagoski, PhD

    Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhD

    Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and former researcher at the Kinsey Institute, explores the ways we experience pleasure in this now-classic read on the science of women’s sexuality. It’s a nonjudgmental look at sexual desire, backed by scientific research and data. As Nagoski explains: An orgasm doesn’t have to be elusive, and a fulfilling sex life doesn’t just boil down to what’s between the sheets.

  • <em>Pleasure Activism</em> by adrienne maree brown

    Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown

    Author, activist, and doula adrienne maree brown makes the argument that the pursuit of pleasure is not just necessary to sustain ourselves through revolution but is actually a revolution in itself. Her philosophy extends beyond sex to every bit of life, from physical movement to friendship to work. She’ll drop homework assignments for you, too, to put pleasure into practice.

  • <em>Girls & Sex</em> by Peggy Orenstein

    Girls & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

    Peggy Orenstein’s fascinating research reveals the tough reality of high school and college hookup culture through in-depth interviews with students, academics, psychologists, and a range of other experts who weigh in on the complicated nature of modern sex and relationships. It’s an incredibly eye-opening read for all adults with a stake in the next generation, particularly parents, of course—and teens, too.

  • <em>Boys & Sex</em> by Peggy Orenstein

    Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

    An equally revelatory, expansive counterpart to Orenstein’s Girls & Sex, Boys & Sex is the culmination of more than two years of research and a hundred-plus interviews with boys between the ages of sixteen and twenty-two. And as in Girls & Sex, Orenstein manages to present the data in a style that leaps off the page.

  • <em>The Ethical Slut</em> by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

    The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

    Known as the bible for ethical nonmonogamy, The Ethical Slut guides the reader on the skills needed to keep everyone in a relationship—whether that’s just two of you or an extended network of sexual partners—on fair and equal footing. Most of the best advice is universal, like learning to get honest with yourself, communicating clearly with partners, and maintaining healthy self-esteem.

  • <em>Becoming Cliterate</em> by Laurie Mintz, PhD

    Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz, PhD

    From sex therapist and psychology professor Laurie Mintz, Becoming Cliterate makes the case for focusing on clitoral stimulation. While the book includes plenty of information about the clitoris—there’s the requisite anatomy lesson and helpful advice—the overarching theme is the gap between male and female sexual pleasure. Mintz’s approach to closing that gap is practical and illuminating.

  • <em>Love Worth Making</em> by Stephen Snyder, MD

    Love Worth Making by Stephen Snyder, MD

    Psychiatrist Stephen Snyder argues that mindfulness may be the biggest turn-on there is and that sexual narcissism isn’t only acceptable; it’s needed. Which seems like a radical approach to sustaining passion in a long-term relationship. But whether you’ve been married for twenty years or you’re in a swipe-right chapter, Snyder believes that the essence of good—rewarding, memorable, impassioned—sex is understanding our sexual selves.

  • <em>Better Sex through Mindfulness</em> by Lori A. Brotto, PhD

    Better Sex through Mindfulness by Lori A. Brotto, PhD

    Focusing on life outside of the bedroom, psychologist and sex researcher Lori A. Brotto takes a compassionate look at the different reasons we might suffer from various sexual difficulties. The most common yet somehow least talked about among them: a lack of interest. Brotto offers tools, in the form of easy exercises, for increasing desire and pleasure.

  • <em>Three Women</em> by Lisa Taddeo

    Three Women by Lisa Taddeo

    In her (highly anticipated) first book, journalist Lisa Taddeo immersed herself in the lives of three American women in different parts of the country for the better part of ten years. The result is an absorbing true story about sex and desire, trauma and longing, power and vulnerability, and the invisible forces that shape our sexuality. The writing is so poetic, it’s easy to forget it’s nonfiction. But we fell for Three Women because of the ordinary in it. We see ourselves in these women. Taddeo so gracefully reminds us that of course we’re normal. We’re all normal.

  • <em>Sex for One</em> by Betty Dodson, PhD

    Sex for One by Betty Dodson, PhD

    If you’re a fan of sex educator Betty Dodson—or a fan of masturbation—this book is for you. While so many books about sex focus on partnered sex, this is an unapologetic and straightforward guide to celebrating and improving sex for one.

  • <em>The Sexual Healing Journey</em> by Wendy Maltz

    The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz

    Presented almost as a step-by-step guidebook, this is a difficult—but immensely gentle and helpful—read for anyone struggling with sex and intimacy after abuse. It’s also an important book for partners of sexual abuse survivors.

  • <em>So Tell Me about the Last Time You Had Sex</em> by Ian Kerner, PhD

    So Tell Me about the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner, PhD

    When you and a partner get busy, what’s the typical schedule of events? Sex therapist Ian Kerner calls the patterns we slip into during intercourse our “sex script.” Drawing on decades of clinical experience and up-to-date sexual science, Kerner helps you understand what about your script feels stuck or unsatisfying. Then he helps you rewrite it.

  • <em>Want Me</em> by Tracy Clark-Flory

    Want Me by Tracy Clark-Flory

    Tracy Clark-Flory’s work as a sex journalist has taken her to porn sets, orgasmic meditation retreats, and anonymous online chat rooms to better understand what turns us on. Her memoir, Want Me, emerged out of a project investigating men’s sexuality. In telling that story, Clark-Flory began to take a candid look at how her own sense of desire has been shaped by the contradicting forces of sexual freedom and sexual expectations—and how wanting intersects with being wanted.

  • <em>Sensual Self</em> by Ev’Yan Whitney

    Sensual Self by Ev’Yan Whitney

    Over several years, sexuality doula Ev’Yan Whitney blogged their own sexual liberation. They documented the experiences of untangling themselves from sexual shame, discovering their unique sexual identity, and learning to take up space. And they decided pleasure was less about sex than about sensuality: waking up to your body and tuning in to what feels good. Whitney’s first book, Sensual Self, is an interactive journal that invites you on the same journey. (You can preorder it now or get your hands on a copy December 7.)

  • <em>Sex with Shakespeare</em> by Jillian Keenan

    Sex with Shakespeare by Jillian Keenan

    In The Tempest, Jillian Keenan found a sexual awakening. In King Lear, she saw a sexual predator. The Taming of the Shrew? BDSM. Her memoir draws on fourteen of the Bard’s works, pulling out all the sexual undertones and piecing them into her own stories of sexuality and fetishism. You’ll laugh. And you might never be able to watch A Midsummer Night’s Dream without blushing ever again.

  • <em>Women’s Anatomy of Arousal</em> by Sheri Winston

    Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

    You can have good—even great—sex on instinct alone. But holistic sexuality teacher Sheri Winston teaches people to develop sex as a learned skill. What’s on the plate? Erotic trances, multiple orgasms, and fuller experiences of self-pleasure.

  • <em>The Right to Sex</em> by Amia Srinivasan

    The Right to Sex by Amia Srinivasan

    In The Right to Sex, philosopher and professor Amia Srinivasan picks apart what sex means beyond our bedroom walls. Her essays are a nuanced look at some of the most polarizing conversations in sex and sexuality: the distinction between sexual preference and discrimination, incel culture, and the return of second-wave, anti-porn feminism. Her essays push us out of our comfort zone in the best way.


We hope you enjoy the books recommended here. Our goal is to suggest only things we love and think you might, as well. We also like transparency, so, full disclosure: We may collect a share of sales or other compensation if you purchase through the external links on this page.

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